When kids are at their best, your pride shines through you like a beam of light. When they're at their worst, you feel like they're possessed by Satan. We've gathered some tips and tricks from parents who have felt both ways and have learned how to deal with any situation that came their way.
A great tip for any parent is to demonstrate consistency and follow-through in all interactions with children. Parents who continually issue the same commands and potential consequences and fail to see them through will likely end up with children who are unwilling to listen or behave. Standing by your statements will teach kids to pay attention and regularly do what you ask of them.
We all know that engaging in an argument with a toddler is never the most productive use of our time. To avoid arguments, make sure you explain your reasons for your rules in ways that are easy for your toddler to understand, and decide ahead of time which rules are flexible and which are non-negotiable.
If you want to facilitate good study habits, make sure your child has a full belly. A child needs energy to study effectively. It will prevent them from becoming over tired and keep their brain working. A small snack, like an apple or some peanut butter crackers, can do wonders during study time.
Be sure to take some time away from your children. This is good for you but also for them. It allows you to have some grownup time but also teaches your children how to be more independent. If you are going to leave for more than an hour be sure they know when you will return.
Get a well made twin stroller that fits your life. There are two main types of twin strollers, the side to side and the back to back. Both have benefits that could recommend them for your children. A side by side will allow both babies to see the world in front of them, but as they get a little older it will also allow them to mess with each other. Back to back strollers are more likely to be compatible with car seats so look for what works for you.
Find a mesh teether. These neat little things allow you to put different kinds of food in them and keep them in the freezer and give them to your child when they need them. You can use any kind of food that your child likes and it will be an enjoyable treat for them as they sooth their sore gums.
It is crucial that you are mentally and physically there for your children, if you and their father are going through a divorce. Children usually get depressed when their parent divorce and turn to unhealthy habits. You can prevent these habits from happening, by letting your children know that you still love them and that they can lean on you.
Establish clear rules in your family. This lets children know what their boundaries are. It also helps them to understand why you are disciplining them if the need should arise. Some rules should apply to everyone, even adults. If you can let your child have a say in establishing some of the rules that can also help.
Take advantage of your child's school's computer records to keep up with your child's daily progress. Most school systems today have computerized tracking of grades and assignments. Get the access code to that system and use it on a daily basis to make sure nothing slips up on you when report cards come out.
If your young child is afraid of monsters in the dark, acknowledge his fears, even though you might think that his fears are silly. In your child's mind, the monster is real enough, and if you do not acknowledge that, he will think that you do not understand him. A better way is to give him a way to deal with the imaginary monster, like telling him that his blanket gives him "magic powers" against the monster. This way, your child will be empowered to deal with his own fears.
Remember to give your kids the space they need to grow and blossom away from the watchful eye of your parenting. Being an attentive parent is great, but the last thing you want to do is smother your children. Giving them space and freedom will make their time spent with you all the more special.
When you are parenting along with someone else you have to respect the fact that they may handle certain situations differently than you will. Never second guess them in front of the child because that will cause confusion and result in your child being in the middle of conflict.
Let your children play with anything and everything! If they'd like to color on a cardboard box, let them - what's the harm? It will develop their hand-eye skills, their artistic imagination, and their self-esteem. Obviously you have to keep your children safe, but let them play outside of the box once in a while!
Give your child choices in order to avoid time-consuming tantrums. If you're tired of being late to work because your child won't wear the clothes you put out for him or her, try laying out two or three outfits the night before and allow them to pick what they will wear in the morning. You'll be amazed how readily they'll get dressed when they did the choosing.
Don't watch scary movies with your children! Studies have found that scary movies cause children to suffer from nightmares, phobias, and a need to be attached to their parents. Wait until they're old to enough to handle the scary images or you might inflict them with permanent fears into their adult life.
Whether beaming or frowning, always remember that kids are doing the best they can with the resources they have. It's your job to provide them with the tools to learn right from wrong and good from bad. So, keep up your hard work! The goal is to raise amazing adults, and there's no question that someone who takes the time to read this article IS going to reach that goal!